Mon, 21 December 2015
melissa@blendedfamilypodcast.com Arguing with your kids is a part of parenting that we all could do without. Children are great at it, and they do it to use their power. You can have a more peaceful home by learning how to diffuse these arguments.
My ten tips
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Mon, 14 December 2015
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Update on our son, who was recently in a car accident Join the Private Facebook Group Listen and Rate/Review on Itunes Connect with me on Facebook Connect with me on Twitter Send questions or feedback to melissa@blendedfamilypodcast.com Send me a voicemail at Speakpipe Visit the website at www.blendedfamilypodcast.com |
Mon, 7 December 2015
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Putting children in the middle is one of the biggest mistakes we make as divorced parents. Whether it’s intentional or accidental, it always hurts the children. There are reasons why we do this and some very common mistakes we make. Children always pay the price. Protect your children by learning to avoid this common pitfall, your children will thank you for it! Pledge to help parents from putting kids in the middle of their divorce, from www.achievesolutions.net click here
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Direct download: 56-Dont_put_children_in_the_middle_-_12_5_15_2.02_PM.mp3
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Mon, 30 November 2015
melissa@blendedfamilypodcast.com A big issue that blended families face is when each family comes from a different religious background. Though certainly not a deal breaker, this can definitely cause some upset in the family, whether from ex partners, or in the current situation. I’ll give you some tips on how to deal with an ex, and also go over some common challenges. Join the Private Facebook Group Listen and Rate/Review on Itunes Connect with me on Facebook Connect with me on Twitter Send questions or feedback to melissa@blendedfamilypodcast.com Send me a voicemail at Speakpipe Visit the website at www.blendedfamilypodcast.com |
Mon, 23 November 2015
melissa@blendedfamilypodcast.com As I am very close to my year anniversary of doing the podcast, I thought it would be fitting to have Shawn, my number one supporter, on the show. If you want to get to know my other half, please listen in as we talk about
If you enjoy hearing Shawn on the show, please send us some feedback on the group page or email. Thank you for listening!
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Direct download: 54-Interview_with_Shawn_-_11_22_15_2.03_PM.mp3
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Mon, 16 November 2015
melissa@blendedfamilypodcast.com Helping a child through the loss of a parent can be very difficult. There are many things you can do to help support your child/children through a traumatic loss like this, such as
Understand that the death of your child’s other parent is not only going to impact your child, but your life as well, and every member of your blended family. Your spare time, financial situation, and your responsibilities will be altered. This is a hard life lesson, but with an entire family's support, a child can still thrive. Join the Private Facebook Group Listen and Rate/Review on Itunes Connect with me on Facebook Connect with me on Twitter Send questions or feedback to melissa@blendedfamilypodcast.com Send me a voicemail at Speakpipe Visit the website at www.blendedfamilypodcast.com
Direct download: 53-Helping_your_child_through_the_loss_of_a_parent.mp3
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Mon, 9 November 2015
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Every blended family can benefit from learning simple tips to save time and money. In this show, I go over my top ten tips of each!
Tips to save time Food Prep Prepare things the night before Delegate chores and responsibilities Exercise at home Online shopping Follow a cleaning schedule, or hire someone Wake up earlier Use your schedule wisely Split tasks with your partner Learn to say no
And the tips to save money Make a list and stick to it Food shop only once a week Shop at bulk stores Repurpose clothing Shop at thrift or secondhand stores Use coupon apps Barter Services Keep your credit cards low Borrow instead of buy Cut down on bills where you can.
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Direct download: 52_-_Hacks_to_save_you_time_and_money.mp3
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Mon, 2 November 2015
melissa@blendedfamilypodcast.com In cases of infidelity, having a blended family can certainly add more complications to the mix. Whether you’re struggling with the knowledge of a past affair or going through it now in your current relationship, this episode can help. Cheating doesn’t have to be a deal breaker. There are ways to move forward past infidelity and go on to have a successful relationship. We will also talk about some do’s and don't’s, and how to deal with family members. Join the Private Facebook Group Listen and Rate/Review on Itunes Connect with me on Facebook Connect with me on Twitter Send questions or feedback to melissa@blendedfamilypodcast.com Send me a voicemail at Speakpipe Visit the website at www.blendedfamilypodcast.com |
Mon, 26 October 2015
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Sometimes we get so caught up in negativity that we lose sight of what's wonderful right in front of us. Blended families are stressful, and we can forget all the blessings that they do bring us. Let me show you how to change your mindset, improve your mood, love and appreciate your blended family! When you change your focus, anything is possible.
Ten things to help improve your mood.
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Mon, 19 October 2015
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Joint custody arrangements are becoming much more the norm in modern divorce. For those that have joint custody arrangements, you know that there are many challenges you must face. To start, we discuss the difference between joint physical and joint legal custody, and some factors in making that decision.
We also discuss some challenges you might face such as
And finally, I leave you with my 5 tips for having success with joint custody, which are
This topic idea comes from our loyal listener Scott! Thank you ! If you have a topic you want me to cover, please email me!
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Direct download: 49-Unique_Challenges_of_Joint_Custody.mp3
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Mon, 12 October 2015
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Marty L Ward is championing the movement to Create Confident Kids. When a 10 yr old little girl hung herself rather than face the bully back in 2011, Marty said, “ENOUGH!” Despite all our school regulations and “Anti-Bullying” and “Stop Bullying” campaigns, 4,400 students commit suicide each year, and 160,000 are absent every day due to fear of confronting the bully. Fed up with the rising statistics, Marty looked for an answer. Influenced by leaders such as Nelson Mandela, Martin Luther King, Gandhi, and Mother Theresa, Marty designed a Create Confident Kids to Eliminate Bullying Program with a whole new twist: it focuses on what we do want – Confident Kids – rather than on what we don’t want – more bullying.
In this interview, we talk about
Marty’s Links Call 321-848-4997 Join the Workshop What every Parent needs to know about Bullying in 2015
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Direct download: 48-Create_Confident_Kids_Marty_Ward_-_10_6_15_7.01_PM.mp3
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Mon, 5 October 2015
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Michele Rosenthal is an award-winning PTSD blogger, bestselling and award-nominated author, host of the radio program, Changing Direction, and founder of HealMyPTSD.com. A former faculty member of the Clinical Development Institute for Timberline Knolls Residential Treatment Center, Michele is also a trauma survivor who struggled with posttraumatic stress disorder (PTSD) for over twenty-five years. Then, she launched a successful “healing rampage.” Michele has been 100% free of PTSD symptoms for almost a decade. Her most recent book is Heal Your PTSD: Dynamic Strategies that Work. Michele and I have a conversation on PTSD, and how this can affect your blended family.
We talk about
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Mon, 28 September 2015
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Here are some important questions we address
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Mon, 21 September 2015
melissa@blendedfamilypodcast.com Part three of the perspectives series. Are you a stepdad who wants to know if what you are feeling is normal? Are you a mom who wants to know where the stepdad in your life is coming from? Listen to this show to gain some perspective and insight from stepdads who really want to be heard.
Here are some important questions we address
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Mon, 14 September 2015
melissa@blendedfamilypodcast.com Part two of the perspectives series. Are you a bio mom who wants to know if what you are feeling is normal? Are you a step parent who wants to know where the bio mom in your life is coming from? Listen to this show to gain some perspective and insight from bio moms who really want to be heard.
Here are some important questions we address
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Mon, 7 September 2015
melissa@blendedfamilypodcast.com Part one of the perspectives series. Are you a stepmom who wants to know if what you are feeling is normal? Are you a bio parent who wants to know where the stepmom in your life is coming from? Listen to this show to gain some perspective and insight from stepmoms who really want to be heard.
Here are some important questions we address
Join me for the next three shows where we talk about perspective from bio mom, step dad, and bio dad! Join the Private Facebook Group Listen and Rate/Review on Itunes Connect with me on Facebook Connect with me on Twitter Send questions or feedback to melissa@blendedfamilypodcast.com Send me a voicemail at Speakpipe Visit the website at www.blendedfamilypodcast.com |
Mon, 31 August 2015
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Sending the kids back to school is always a transition. You want to set up for success, and have that transition go as smooth as possible. I share my top ten tips for a successful school year, which are
Listen to the show for more details so you and your children can have a great year! Join the Private Facebook Group Listen and Rate/Review on Itunes Connect with me on Facebook Connect with me on Twitter Send questions or feedback to melissa@blendedfamilypodcast.com Send me a voicemail at Speakpipe Visit the website at www.blendedfamilypodcast.com |
Mon, 24 August 2015
melissa@blendedfamilypodcast.com Setting proper boundaries is essential in the blended family home. Everyone needs to know what is acceptable and what is not in order to maintain some kind of peace in the home. Some tips on setting boundaries include doing so from the beginning, holding family meetings, and practicing good communication.
If you’re wondering who needs boundaries, well everyone. Though you will find the most necessary boundaries are set with the children, the ex spouses, and the in laws (or ex in laws). Each of those types require different types of boundaries, and they are unique to your family. The happiness of the family and especially the children lies in practicing this boundary setting often! Join the Private Facebook Group Listen and Rate/Review on Itunes Connect with me on Facebook Connect with me on Twitter Send questions or feedback to melissa@blendedfamilypodcast.com Send me a voicemail at Speakpipe Visit the website at www.blendedfamilypodcast.com |
Mon, 17 August 2015
melissa@blendedfamilypodcast.com This show is all about you! I answer some listener questions! Join the Private Facebook Group Listen and Rate/Review on Itunes Connect with me on Facebook Connect with me on Twitter Send questions or feedback to melissa@blendedfamilypodcast.com Send me a voicemail at Speakpipe Visit the website at www.blendedfamilypodcast.com |
Mon, 10 August 2015
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Family Contracts can be very helpful in the blended family. When children move from home to home, behavior and rules can get a little out of control. Contracts can help get everyone on the same page. There are many different types of contracts that you can draw up, depending on the child and what their specific needs are. Some examples are a cell phone contract, a driving contract, a behavioral contract, or a chore/reward contract. Listen to the show for details on exactly how to be successful using this method. For the cell phone contract www.joshshipp.com Join the Private Facebook Group Listen and Rate/Review on Itunes Connect with me on Facebook Connect with me on Twitter Send questions or feedback to melissa@blendedfamilypodcast.com Send me a voicemail at Speakpipe Visit the website at www.blendedfamilypodcast.com
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Mon, 3 August 2015
melissa@blendedfamilypodcast.com Ending a relationship is a very hard decision to make, especially if you have a blended family. Lots of lives are affected by your decisions. If you and your partner come to the realization that the relationship is not working, there are some tips to help you get through the process more smoothly.
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Direct download: 38-What_to_do_if_your_relationship_is_ending.mp3
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Mon, 27 July 2015
melissa@blendedfamilypodcast.com Dr. Jennifer Wider is a women's health expert, author and radio host who frequently appears on television shows including the Today Show, CBS News, and ABC News Nightline. She is the author of 4 books including her most recent: Got Teens, the Doctor Moms' Guide to Sexuality, Social Media and Other Adolescent Realities, w/ Dr. Logan Levkoff. She is a medical adviser to Cosmopolitan Magazine and has written hundreds of articles for a variety of publications. But of out of all of these, her best accomplishments are her 3 children: ages 13, 9 and 4.
In this interview, we focus on teenagers and discuss
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Mon, 20 July 2015
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These days our children are exposed to more than they should be, and most exposure is due to social media. Teenagers spend the majority of their time with their faces buried in their phones. This is truly frustrating for parents. The choice whether to get your child that smartphone or not is yours as their parent, but you should be aware of what it entails before you make that decision. Most importantly, certain rules should be set before even giving your child that phone. We aren’t going to be able to stop social media, but at least we can gain knowledge about it in order to keep our children safe. Join the Private Facebook Group Listen and Rate/Review on Itunes Connect with me on Facebook Connect with me on Twitter Send questions or feedback to melissa@blendedfamilypodcast.com Send me a voicemail at Speakpipe Visit the website at www.blendedfamilypodcast.com
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Mon, 13 July 2015
melissa@blendedfamilypodcast.com Being a stepparent can be hard, and sometimes confusing as well. It’s hard to know how much you can say or do, or how much you can involve yourself in the life of the child. In this episode, I go over some do’s and dont’s to help you in your role as a stepparent.
For the donts
And the Do’s
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Mon, 6 July 2015
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Keeping your blended family healthy can be a challenge. As children shuffle from home to home, they can can also bring their illness from home to home. We can’t always control the other home environment where our children live when they aren’t with us. We can only teach them the importance of healthy eating and exercise. In this episode I share tips and challenges. I also get into the benefits of using essential oils to improve your family’s health. Join the Private Facebook Group Listen and Rate/Review on Itunes Connect with me on Facebook Connect with me on Twitter Send questions or feedback to melissa@blendedfamilypodcast.com Send me a voicemail at Speakpipe Visit the website at www.blendedfamilypodcast.com
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Mon, 29 June 2015
melissa@blendedfamilypodcast.com Forgiveness is something that is necessary in all families. Blended families will not be as successful if we cannot learn how forgive others. It is also extremely important to teach our children how to do this. These nine steps were taken from www.learningtoforgive.com
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Sun, 21 June 2015
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Don’t miss this awesome Father’s Day Special, with special guest, Justin Worsham. Justin has a thriving career as a comedian, and is now cultivating a radio career. His podcast, called The Dad Podcast, is rising to the top of the charts! In this interview we discuss
Here at the the Blended Family Podcast, we want to wish all of the dad’s out there a very special Father’s Day. Please share this episode with the special father’s in your life!
Here’s how you can connect with Justin Worsham!
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Direct download: Episode_32_-_Fathers_Day_Special_with_Justin.mp3
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Mon, 15 June 2015
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Summer is here, school is out! What are you going to do with your blended family? It can be hard to coordinate schedules over the summer and also keep them busy. What can you do so you don’t hear the constant “I’m bored?” I’ll give you just a few tips in this short episode, as I’m getting ready to take a small trip before the chaos of summer arrives! Join the Private Facebook Group Listen and Rate/Review on Itunes Connect with me on Facebook Connect with me on Twitter Send questions or feedback to melissa@blendedfamilypodcast.com Send me a voicemail at Speakpipe Visit the website at www.blendedfamilypodcast.com
Direct download: Episode_31-Summer_with_your_blended_family.mp3
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Mon, 8 June 2015
melissa@blendedfamilypodcast.com There are many roles we play in our blended families, and sometimes we can feel unappreciated for all that we do. There are five main categories or roles that we feel unappreciated in.
Proper communication can help, by expressing to your family what your needs are. Most of us have these feelings at one point or another. Join the Private Facebook Group Listen and Rate/Review on Itunes Connect with me on Facebook Connect with me on Twitter Send questions or feedback to melissa@blendedfamilypodcast.com Send me a voicemail at Speakpipe Visit the website at www.blendedfamilypodcast.com
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Mon, 1 June 2015
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It is very common as parents to compare our own children to other children. This comparison hinders us from truly seeing the positive qualities in a child. We need to accept, love, and embrace our kids for who they are, positive and negative. Blended families can struggle with this, as suddenly there are other kids in the home, and often we cannot help but to compare our biological children to our stepchildren. It is our human nature to do this, but it’s important to try not to for the sake of your child, and for your own sanity. You can make a conscious effort to stop comparing, love your children for who they are, and focus on their positive qualities. Join the Private Facebook Group Listen and Rate/Review on Itunes Connect with me on Facebook Connect with me on Twitter Send questions or feedback to melissa@blendedfamilypodcast.com Send me a voicemail at Speakpipe Visit the website at www.blendedfamilypodcast.com
Direct download: Episode_29-Raise_the_child_you_were_given.mp3
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Mon, 25 May 2015
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Perfectionism is something that many people struggle with. When it comes to a blended family, we can feel pressure to have the “perfect” family. This, of course, is an unrealistic expectation.
In this episode, we discuss the questions to ask yourself to determine if you are a perfectionist, examples of what perfectionism looks like in a blended family, and what steps you can take to overcome perfectionism, which involve
Perfectionism is definitely something that can improve over time, thereby improving your quality of life, and the quality of all of your relationships.
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Mon, 18 May 2015
melissa@blendedfamilypodcast.com In almost all relationships, at some point or another, couples are faced with a decision to end a relationship or stick it out. The stresses of a blended family can really put an extra strain on a relationship. Before you decide to end a relationship, and affect not only your lives, but the lives of your children, there are some important 5 key factors to look at.
Listen to the episode to learn what should not be a cause of a breakup, and also what types of fears should not hold you back! Join the Private Facebook Group Listen and Rate/Review on Itunes Connect with me on Facebook Connect with me on Twitter Send questions or feedback to melissa@blendedfamilypodcast.com Send me a voicemail at Speakpipe Visit the website at www.blendedfamilypodcast.com |
Sun, 10 May 2015
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In this episode, we celebrate MOMS! It doesn’t matter if you are a biological mom, a step mom, a grandmother, or a step grandmother. In this show, I interview Lauren Jean, a fellow podcaster, who is all about helping moms! Some things we discuss are
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Direct download: Episode_26-Mothers_Day_Special_with_Lauren_Jean_-_5515_9.32_PM.mp3
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Mon, 4 May 2015
melissa@blendedfamilypodcast.com I asked the listeners to help me compile a list of 25 top tips for bringing their blended family closer together, for this special milestone episode. Listen in to hear everyone’s fabulous ideas, plus a few of my own!
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Direct download: Episode_25-Top_tips-2_1_-_5115_11.07_PM.mp3
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Mon, 27 April 2015
melissa@blendedfamilypodcast.com When your partner hates your child (or you hate your partners child), it can make your relationship seem impossible. The first step is acknowledging that this is going on. Then it’s important to validate one another’s feelings. Hatred is a strong emotion, and is usually coming from someplace. With understanding and communication, this doesn’t have to ruin your relationship. Family counseling can help, and sometimes just time can help. Listen to this episode for some tips on how to deal with this difficult situation.
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Direct download: Episode_24-When_Your_Partner_Hates_Your_Child_2.mp3
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Mon, 20 April 2015
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This episode is focused around a listener question, who wants to know how to deal with a very serious, dangerous situation in her life. In many cases, people are dealing with an ex partner who is dangerous to the well being of their child. This can mean abuse, addiction, or mental illness. In this case, our listener is dealing with something unimaginable. Click here for the mentioned interview with Heather Rampolla and Christina Roach
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Mon, 13 April 2015
melissa@blendedfamilypodcast.com When your child decides they want to move out of your home, and in with their other biological parent, it can turn your world upside down. On this episode, we will talk about why this happens, and what you can do about it. I will also share with you a little of my personal story.
In blended families, this can turn into a situation that affects everyone in the entire home. It’s important to understand that this often has nothing to do with you, but entirely to do with the child. Teenagers, especially, are on their own agenda. They will do whatever they can to get what they want. In a traditional, biological home, they don’t have much of a choice. In the divorced home, it’s often very easy to choose the other home when things get uncomfortable for them.
I also share a listener question! Join the Private Facebook Group Listen and Rate/Review on Itunes Connect with me on Facebook Connect with me on Twitter Send questions or feedback to melissa@blendedfamilypodcast.com Send me a voicemail at Speakpipe Visit the website at www.blendedfamilypodcast.com
Direct download: Episode_22-When_a_Teenage_Child_Decides_to_Move_out.mp3
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Mon, 6 April 2015
melissa@blendedfamilypodcast.com In a traditional family setting, with two parents and their biological children, there are usually two sets of grandparents. In the blended family, there are at least one or more additional sets of grandparents involved. This can be difficult to navigate, especially if you don’t have cooperation from the grandparents. Becoming step grandparents may be a role that they weren’t prepared for, and maybe never even thought about. Once placed in that situation, grandparents often have a hard time rising to the challenge.
In this episode, we will address the reasons why step grandparents struggle with their new role, and what you can do to help them along. We will also talk about what grandparents should be doing, and what they may be doing wrong.
With time and patience, relationships between step grandparents and their step grandchildren can flourish. There is a special place in every blended family for grandparents. Join the Private Facebook Group Listen and Rate/Review on Itunes Connect with me on Facebook Connect with me on Twitter Send questions or feedback to melissa@blendedfamilypodcast.com Send me a voicemail at Speakpipe Visit the website at www.blendedfamilypodcast.com
Direct download: Episode_21-Grandparents_and_Their_Role_in_the_Blended_Family.mp3
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Mon, 30 March 2015
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On this episode, I have a conversation with specialist Christina Roach
Christina Roach is President and Founder of Success for Steps®, a resource for stepfamilies, and specializes in working with individuals in "step" relationships. She is a certified Stepfamily Foundation Master Coach and is a recognized Stepfamily Professional by the National Stepfamily Resource Center. In addition, she is a licensed psychotherapist, a National Certified Counselor and a Distance Credentialed Counselor. She's been featured in both national print and broadcast media, including Ebony Magazine and NBC's Daytime. And she's a contributing writer for StepMom Magazine. Christina has a private practice in Tampa, Florida, and offers phone and webcam coaching for those living outside the area.
Some things we discuss in this episode are
Here is how you can connect with Christina Take her survey here Success for Steps website Christina’s facebook Christina’s twitter Christina’s LinkedIn To connect with me Join the Private Facebook Group Listen and Rate/Review on Itunes Connect with me on Facebook Connect with me on Twitter Send questions or feedback to melissa@blendedfamilypodcast.com Send me a voicemail at Speakpipe Visit the website at www.blendedfamilypodcast.com
Direct download: Episode_20-Interview_with_Christina_Roach_founder_of_Success_for_Steps.mp3
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Mon, 23 March 2015
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In this day and age, it’s become harder for our children to focus on, and be successful in their education. The world is a different place now than when we were of school age. Blended families have some extra difficulties with this, especially due to time sharing between two homes. In this episode we discuss
No matter what, it’s essential to do everything you can to help your child succeed!
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Mon, 16 March 2015
melissa@blendedfamilypodcast.com We often hear of children needing to take a timeout for bad behavior. Did you ever think of an adult taking a time out? It can actually be extremely helpful and effective in certain situations. Taking a timeout is essential in times where your anger level is about to reach it’s peak. Separate yourself before you lose control and say things you may regret later on. During this time you can focus on your breathing to calm yourself, which will help you deal with whatever situation has come up, in a much calmer state.
Other times when a timeout is useful is if you are feeling depressed, overwhelmed, depleted, or anxious. Find activities that bring you peace and relaxation. Some ideas are a hot bath, reading a book, doing some yoga, or taking a nap.
These time out sessions do not have to be long, but they can be. It’s healthy to figure out when you may need one, and also healthy as a behavior for the children to model. When you get used to doing this, it’s imperative to schedule in regular time during your day, week, and month, for some “you” time. As parents, we can get stressed out and lose our joy if we aren’t taking the time to nurture ourselves! Join the Private Facebook Group Listen and Rate/Review on Itunes Connect with me on Facebook Connect with me on Twitter Send questions or feedback to melissa@blendedfamilypodcast.com Visit the website at www.blendedfamilypodcast.com
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Mon, 9 March 2015
melissa@blendedfamilypodcast.com Raising difficult or manipulative children is so challenging, especially in a blended family home. In cases of divorce, these children are adept at working the parents against one another to get whatever it is that they want. This behavior can cause lasting damage on the family and your relationship with your partner.
The key to success in helping a difficult child is to determine if there is a medical or psychological cause for their behavior. There are many options to get them the help they need. If a cause is not determined, there are methods of behavior modification in the home that you can use.
While taking care of the difficult child’s needs, you mustn’t neglect yourself, your partner, or the other children in the home. There are coping strategies that can help you all keep your sanity. All children must grow up someday, and so this season in your life will pass. Take care of your own mental and physical well being so you can be there for the family who depends on you! Join the Private Facebook Group Listen and Rate/Review on Itunes Connect with me on Facebook Connect with me on Twitter Send questions or feedback to melissa@blendedfamilypodcast.com Visit the website at www.blendedfamilypodcast.com
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Mon, 2 March 2015
melissa@blendedfamilypodcast.com Every parent hopes and wishes all of their children get along. Biological children are built with a special bond with their siblings, whereas step siblings do not automatically have this. In the blended family, we want to encourage the step siblings to form bonds and relationships with one another for a strong family dynamic.
Depending on the ages of the children, there are different ways to accomplish this. You want to first try to find common ground between them, and arrange activities they can do together that they enjoy. Sports are good, playing games, or doing projects together are just some ideas. You can also plan family activities that include everyone, such as a trip to the beach, or a picnic.
The process of bonding can take years, and it is not something that can be forced. The more opportunities they have to be together, the better the process should be. There are times when children just will not like one another, and if this is happening in your family, don’t take it personal. Your relationship with your partner should not be affected by this. Their step sibling bond will change and evolve over time, and you and your partner need to allow them the space to maintain their own relationships.
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Mon, 23 February 2015
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This episode is all about maintaining intimacy with your partner while managing a blended family. It can be so hard to do!
Listen to my conversation with Sibel Guelseren. Sibel is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist, Board Certified Addictions Professional, Board Certified Sex Therapist, and Life Coach with over 15 years in Experience. Sibel earned a Master of Education Degree and a Specialist in Education Degree, both specializing in Marriage and Family Therapy from the University of Florida. She is also a Graduate of CoachU's 3-year prestigious Coaching Program and works with clients on various life and work issues. She is an Approved Supervisor for Marriage and Family Therapist Interns.
Sibel and I talk about many issues that blended families face sexually, such as
If you want to contact Sibel Guelseren, use the following By phone at 386-334-3777 Website www.anewcounseling.net
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Mon, 16 February 2015
melissa@blendedfamilypodcast.com It is so important to bond with your stepchildren. Your stepchildren will always be a part of your partners life, therefore will be a part of yours. We are all built with an innate quality to love and cherish our children unconditionally. We don’t have the same built in feelings about stepchildren. The relationship with our stepchildren needs work to grow.
Age plays a big role in how we bond with stepchildren.
Elementary school kids are easiest to adapt to their parents new partner. At this age, children are less judgemental and more willing to give and receive love. The best ways to bond with children this age are to do a lot of talking and listening. Discipline is also essential at this age to help establish respect and boundaries. Other ideas are to play together, take part in their daily rituals, or bake something in the kitchen. Love, interest, and attention is what they need to help form a bond.
Pre teens and teenagers are an entirely different situation when it comes to establishing bonds. They can hardly bond with their own biological parents at this age. If they are being difficult, you can’t force a bond. What you can do is gently attempt to connect. Try to engage or start lighthearted conversations, make them a favorite meal, and take an interest in their life. Don’t be discouraged by a moody or angry teenager. They will grow up, and most likely will appreciate your previous efforts.
Adult children who are over 18 can be harder to bond with, as they will be moved on and involved in their own lives at this point. Honor the relationship they have formed with your partner over the years. You can invite them over for holidays and dinners to get opportunities to get to know them better.
If everything you try does not result in a successful stepparent and stepchild relationship, your relationship with your partner doesn’t need to suffer. Everyone in the home should always maintain a level of respect towards one another as a rule. Therapy is a useful tool, and sometimes time makes all the difference. Never give up on trying to bond as a family unit, and working on the special bond between a stepparent and stepchild. Join the private Facebook group Listen and rate/review on Itunes Connect with me on Facebook Connect with me on Twitter Send questions or feedback to melissa@blendedfamilypodcast.com Visit the website at www.blendedfamilypodcast.com |
Mon, 9 February 2015
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Healthy communication is an essential part of any relationship, not only those in blended families. However, in the blended family, communication is key to success. It is important for all members of the family to communicate, not just the parents. I have three tips for healthy communication, which are
1. Communication is not confrontation. This means that when you communicate, it does not need to be a fight, but rather a discussion back and forth. It is important to bring down those defensive walls and allow the space for calm talking.
2. Be open and honest. This seems simple. We need to tell the truth, to ourselves, and our partners. Hiding one’s true feelings only builds anger and resentment. We need to be able to tell the people we love what is on our mind so we can resolve any issues. When it comes to the children, it is also important to keep the lines of communication open. This will become especially important as they enter into the teenage years.
3. Listen. Instead of thinking of the next thing you want to say, you must actually listen to the person as they are speaking to you. This seems obvious, but so many of us are not fully paying attention in our daily conversations. This includes our children, who we often have a tendency to tune out sometimes.
Here are some other ideas to try to encourage healthy communication.
For a shy child who keeps their feelings to themselves, purchase a special notebook just for the two of you to share, where they can ask a question, or talk about their feelings.
Practice repeating back information you are given for effective communication. So when someone voices a complaint, you repeat back what they are saying so they know you are truly engaged with them.
Last, do not use the children as messengers to deliver information to an ex. This is unfair, confusing, and usually causes a problem. Communication with an ex should be done just with you and your ex, whether by speaking, email, or text.
You will find that your family will thrive when you can achieve healthy communication. It is something that you must continuously work on, but it is so worth it in the long run.
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Mon, 2 February 2015
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Dont miss this great interview with Heather Rampolla!
Heather Rampolla is stepmom to two teenage daughters, host of Fresh Eats Radio and creator of Fresh Eats Detox. She helps busy moms, wives & entrepreneurs rid of overwhelm when trying to eat healthy… you know, like picky eaters, or fitting in real foods when you’re managing a busy schedule. She teaches you how to easily add in more of the good stuff so you can look good & feel good. Heather has been featured in Mind Body Green, Kris Carr’s Crazy Sexy Wellness Revolution, Organic Eats Magazine, Real Foods Witch, The Mogul Mom, and more.
Blended Families face extra challenges when it comes to feeding a family and being healthy. Kids are bouncing back and forth from home to home, which makes it really hard to establish rules when it comes to food. Teaching your children to make healthy choices is a challenge and so is getting everyone on board. Heather has some great advice on how to manage all this and even save some time so you are not living in the kitchen.
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Mon, 26 January 2015
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All siblings fight, and this is a natural part of the process of growing up. In a blended family, it doesn’t seem so natural when the step siblings fight. This causes of lot of stress and unease on the parents. It is actually one of the biggest problems blended families will face. There are many reasons why the kids will fight, and there are right and wrong ways to deal with it.
An obvious reason why the step siblings fight is that they just may not like each other at all. When two people get together and create a life, we cannot control all of the family dynamics and relationships of all involved. They may not like one another because they haven’t gotten a chance to get to know each other better, or they may never like each other at all. Either way, you and your partner cannot ruin your relationship over this. The kids will grow up and have lives of their own. Help them through by talking about it, and if things don’t improve, you can limit their time together.
Another reason for dislike can be jealousy, whether the children are aware of it or not. Jealousy can arise from feelings of insecurity, or from their comparing lives. When children are jealous, it usually resolves itself as the children get older.
Last, some kids fight because this is natural for kids to do. If you grew up with siblings, chances are you fought with your brothers or sisters too. If stepchildren are close enough to fight, that can be a sign that they view themselves as true family.
As a parent, this can be a very difficult stage to go through, and it can put a strain on your relationship. Together, you must decide how you are going to handle these quarrels. Make a pact that you won’t allow it to come between you both, and also that you will stand as a team.
Some things to remember
Even though this can be very trying on your relationship, you will make it through. Stay close to your partner, because it is you two who will be left with one another when the kids are grown and out of the house. Kids will be kids, and we aren’t in control of what they do. This is just a season in your life, and you will need patience and love to get through it.
Please comment on the show notes if you have any ideas on helping kids to work things out. Also feel free to share your personal stories for other listeners to give them hope.
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Mon, 19 January 2015
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Parents in blended families face extra stress and difficulties, which can create some tension on the relationship. This can lead to excess fighting between the adults, and this can be damaging to your blended family. Some of the most common causes of arguments could be ex partners, children, money, and scheduling.
There are ways to overcome this by learning healthy methods and strategies. You want to make sure you are fighting fair. There are good and bad ways to resolve conflicts. First step is to stop using the word fight, which is defined as battle, or combat. Let’s replace that word with “argument,” or “disagreement.”
You and your partner may have very different styles of handling a conflict, and this in itself can cause a huge problem. Start paying attention to the way you speak to each other. Avoid using hurtful and negative language. Avoid yelling and being accusatory. Instead try replacing with more positive language, and learn to walk away if you can’t, so you can avoid saying things you may regret later. The children are watching your behavior and interactions, and you want to be a good model. Arguments should not be taken in front of the children.
Arguing over the children is the most common type of disagreement a blended family faces. Do not do this in front of the child. Talk alone about discipline styles and how you feel things should be handled.
Remember that all relationships endure tough times, and it is perfectly fine and expected to not always agree. Relationships take work and care. Communication is key to get through blended a family together properly.
ALL YOU NEED IS LOVE to make this work!
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Mon, 12 January 2015
melissa@blendedfamilypodcast.com Almost every divorced couple deals with a disrespectful ex at some point or another after their divorce. If you haven’t, then chances are your new partner may be dealing with it.
Some of the most common issues you may face with a disrespectful ex are
If your ex is trying to turn your children against you, you want to first make sure you do not retaliate by trying to turn the kids against your ex. Two wrongs don’t make a right. Try to get to the bottom of the situation by determining what exactly is being said and why. You can have age appropriate conversations with the kids about what has taken place so they can hear the truth from you. Always be honest with them, but if you feel they aren’t ready to know the details, by all means, do not share them. Explain to them that you will be able to disclose more as they get older. Try to have a conversation with your ex as to how damaging this can be to your children, but if that doesn’t work, you must do damage control.
If you are dealing with an ex who refuses to accept the fact that you have moved on, or simply doesn’t accept your choice of a new partner, it can be very stressful to your new relationship. Figuring out why is the first step. It really helps to understand why your ex is harboring these feelings of anger or hatred. Determine if there is any basis for the feelings or they are completely unwarranted. These feelings usually stem from jealousy of you moving on, or over there being another parent in the child’s life. Talking to your ex about their feelings may help, but most likely you will have to allow this to get better over time. When you figure out what you think is the root cause, you can see if there is something you can do to help along the process. Sometimes they will never accept this person, and in that case, you need to support your current partner, as this is your ex’s problem.
It is always tough to deal with an ex that tries to get back at you by being difficult and purposely going out of their way to break rules. Even though this can be troubling for you, it is best not to show them it is bothering you. Their sole purpose right now is to make you miserable, so you must show them that is not going to work. The children are watching your behavior, so it is a must you live with integrity and don’t strike back.
The issue of a disrespectful ex can drive a wedge in your current relationship, with your kids and your new partner. It is helpful to recognize that this is the ex’s issue, not yours, and that this common issue usually resolves in time.Your children are growing up fast, and once they are grown, your contact with your ex will be a thing of the past.
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Mon, 5 January 2015
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Dealing with finances is an issue that every couple must face. However, it is much more difficult in a blended family. There are usually more issues in a blended family, such as child support, separate debts and assets, and financial involvements with exes.
The issue of finances is best discussed early on in the relationship to avoid pitfalls in the future. Some topics to discuss are
You must decide if you are sharing your income, and a lot of that will depend on how much you each make and what each of your financial obligations are.
Expenses are a much more tricky topic. You both need to figure out who is handling what expenses. How will you divide home expenses and debt? Who is going to pay the bills? Are you going to take care of your previous debts together or handle that separately? These are all issues you must face and talk about together. Child expenses should mostly be shared, but again, some of this depends on ages of children and what their needs are.
There are three options on how to handle the bank accounts. You can have completely separate accounts if you both want to keep everything separate. You will need to decide who is paying for what if you do this. Another option is to have one pooled account that all of your money goes in and is totally shared. Last you can decide to have three accounts, each your own account and then one joint account. Again, here you would need to decide who is paying what and how much you will each contribute into the joint account.
Future financial planning includes things like deciding whether to have a prenuptial agreement and dealing with life insurance.
All finances in the relationship should be discussed openly and honestly to insure success in the future.
Comment on the show notes if you have any advice or tips you want to share!
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